Positive Experiences - Positive Lives
Collaborative Project
Sat, 29/08/2009 - 14:03 — admin
Here at TeesTrans we would like to start a collaborative project with members of the community. We would like to focus on people's positive experiences of being Trans, being intersex, being a cross dresser; all aspects of gender variance.
We would like to do this by listening to individuals positive experiences.
For example has there been a happy accident in your life? Something that made a huge difference to your confidence and/or self-esteem. Was it the first time someone offered you a compliment? Your first outing dressed in the clothing of your acquired gender? The first time you passed? A time when you were read and still received a compliment? The realisation that to some people who you are inside is what matters? Your first relationship in your acquired gender? The first time you were accepted without question in your new name and acquired gender on the telephone?
You get the idea!
The plan would be to record a short conversation or take written notes and then produce a short edited piece written for the website and for prosperity. The piece could be attributed to you or left anonymous; it could include a photograph or not; in many ways you can drive and influence how this project might take shape.
So, we'd like to hear from you if you would like to participate. Just use the Contact Us page to drop us a short note expressing interest and we'll be in touch.
If you are a member of the site you can contribute by creating a blog entry and for appropriate blogs Admin will tag them as 'positive experiences' and it will appear on the Projects page!
Images
Sat, 29/08/2009 - 14:19 — admin I stand before the mirror, often minutes at a time,
gazing at my reflection; at the woman I see there
partially hidden by my perception of my still-as-yet male body.
My body has started to soften; curves and bumps,
shapes and angles, dissolving slowly (too slowly it seems),
under chemical influence.
By sheer force of will, I draw the female image
out of my reflection, I literally pull it out of the mirror,
inch by inch.
Slowly, as retrieving a stone from quicksand, I close my eyes
and slip into the image as of a suit.
Little by little, progress measured hair by hair,
I slide into the image.
I comfort in it. I revel in it. I rejoice in it.
I have met the image, and it is me!
Anon.
Insomnia
Fri, 11/09/2009 - 18:18 — denise I have not been to bed for a couple of days, a negative you might say but
but not a bit of it, I have turnedit into a positive.
Many positives can arise from the foul negatives we all suffer from ,
Lets get the project on the road .
Over the last couple of days I have;
Beaten a Grandmaster at chess.
Made new friends .
Had congratulatory meal with a friend who has graduated .
Anyone reading this please let me know their positives from , their foul
negatives. The biggest positive of all is I am here, alive and kicking,which
says it all. goodnight all love and kisses .
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Insomnia
Fri, 11/09/2009 - 18:38 — denise I have a positive , yes a positive, from a negative.
That foul negative has drowned in the juices
of a great positive , many great positives.
I had not slept for a while and guess what.
I beat a chess grandmaster
I finished reading ulysses
Had friends round
Had a walk
I now wish to read of many positives, not of my own but yours.
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Negatives into Positives
Fri, 11/09/2009 - 20:15 — marilyn I have been a prolific self harmer in the past. It was one of my repertoire of coping strategies. Coping with gender dysphoriai, and society's and family's and friends rejections and reactions. I used to cut. Cutting gave me a release. The I started cutting deeper and deeper. It got to the point where I was taking myself to A&E multiple times a week. That was the negative. The postive came when I realised that cutting wasn't giving me any release anymore. It had turned into punishment. I realised that I was punishing myself for being Transi and for the rejection and abuse I was receiving. That realisation was a huge positive for me. I didn't want that for me. I didn't want other people to have that influence and control over me to take me to the point where I would punish myself. I have not self-harmed since. I am a much stronger woman for it. I am in control of me and my life. All because of that huge negative of self-harm being turned into inner strength. If, dear reader, you self-harm, then please take strength, you can beat it, take control, and start to respect yourself, don't let other people win!
If you have issues with self-harm your local Community Mental Health team can help and you can be referred to them by your GP. Alternatively, the National Self Harm Network may be of some help.
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Positives
Sun, 13/09/2009 - 19:06 — admin It was no easy matter for me setting up this website for gender varianti individuals to come together and commune in cyberspace. I have felt that communion this weekend and I have been part of it. Thank you all. x
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Nameday Celebrations
Thu, 15/10/2009 - 16:18 — ana It's my first nameday celebration on Saturday. The first anniversary of changing my name by deed poll. So I now have a birthday to celebrate and a nameday to celebrate each year; hopefully it will not be too long until I also have big-op celebrations (another birthday) and GRCi celebrations (yet another birthday!). Four days to celebrate in one year. And I expect cards and gifts for each! lol. Ax
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